STRIPPING!!
So i'm just going to jump into this in the middle... Ryan just called me to let me know that he is stripping for his MANAGER'S bacholorette party!! what am i suppose to say to that, NO i'm not okay with it, what the hell.... of course he is being stupid and drunk. I don't even know what to do about him! it's like he has a double standard about everything, if it were me that called to say that I was stripping for someone, even if its not "all the way" our relationship would be over. Some of the things he does I can not handle. Everytime I do something that he is not okay with, he blows up on me and acts like a little kid... I should have said something to him to begin with, but no i didn't, i was too shocked to say anything at all! what am i suppose to say to that, really! I didn't want to blow up on him in with all of those people around him, but I'm not okay with it either. sometimes i think our relationship is going nowhere and i'm going to end up in a marriage like my parents. my dad made all the rules for my mom and for us and my mom just followed and went along with everything that he said. Anyway, Ryan is currently my boyfriend and the love of my life. I truely do love him and he makes me so happy. we spend so much time together and there are good times and bad times like in every relationship, although it seems that he is the bringer of all the bad times and they are all because of something that i do wrong-- i don't ever see what it is that i do but it's always me. i'm not the type of person that gets mad or tries to be the dominant person. i think that is why i'm in such a predicament right now. I feel like i'm always stuck in between everything, there is never a time for my decisions or for katie to be the dominant one! what the hell am i suppose to do!!! seriously! I've changed so many things for him and i don't think he ever realizes it. I don't hang out with anyone of the guys i use to and that i can understand. but i barely even hang out with or talk to any of my girlfriends anymore. it's so hard to have no one to talk to half of the time but him. i don't feel like i get any other opinions or ideas. I don't know, maybe i'm just being crazy... who wouldn't want their boyfriend to be stripping in front of a bunch of girls that he works with and his BOSS!! seriously??
I know exactly what youre going through. I dated a guy who made me feel the same way. That relationship is now over, but while I was in it, I felt the same way you do now. He had such a dominant personality that I let his needs be the focus of what we did as a couple. I never told him how I felt or what I wanted.
But, eventually, I did tell him what I wanted, and how I felt. It was great to tell him things I had been holding back. I didnt tell him in the first place, because I didnt want to hurt him. Are you listening to this crazy stuff? I didnt want to hurt him with what I was thinking. That was too stupid!
I told him what I needed, and do you know what he did next? He gave it to me. He listened to me, and gave me what I needed. I know this is just my personal experience, but if your boyfriend cares for you, he will respect your thoughts and wishes. And if he doesnt, then he doesnt deserve you. (Comment this)